Anticipate Less

I get to practice this on the dance floor. The secret to ballroom dancing, for me, is not knowing the rules, the counts, the steps. It requires infinitely precise sensing and following. I don't have time to wonder what the lead is doing. I only have to be on high alert, present, in my body, and feel the direction of things. Of course, I get off on the footwork, but I'm not here to do it "right". I need practice not being in control, going with the flow, and following intuition and subtle clues. My goal is to know what he's thinking AS we take the step. How refreshing! No project manager here. No imagined scenarios and all their kinks and solutions for every branch on this imagined tree. Just this, now, to this beat, with this person. This is a chance to hear the music, feel the lead, and be present right now. I often find myself asking, "How does he hear the music?" This will clue me into his sense of things, but other than that you can't think yourself around the dance floor you've got to DANCE. What brings you into the now? What brings you into your body? What forces you into movement?